Look, we get that phone sex can be strange, but we also know that, when you and your significant other can’t physically be with one another, it may be the best option to keep that sexual spark alive. Rather than sit around and just play with yourself, why not take the dive and try it, right?
That said, there’s a difference between having phone sex and having hot phone sex, understanding what to say and how to say it. For those who may struggle with that, we’re happy to lend some advice, giving you some tips on how to have phone sex like the pros — and it won’t even cost you money to have a great experience!
Tempt them
When you’re physically together, you and your partner often tease one another with things that you’re planning on doing — like talking dirty, spanking or rubbing/licking certain areas. Since you can’t do that while having phone sex, the next best thing is to tempt them with things in a similar way. For instance, you may say something like, “Ah, I love the way you say my name when rubbing your clit,” when talking to your girlfriend. Even if it’s not the biggest turn on, it keeps things hot and the conversation going. Another thing you can do is to tempt them with something to look forward to when you do see each other next, like telling them how you can’t wait to eat her out or throw her on the bed.
Be playful
You don’t have the (potential) embarrassment of looking at your significant other in the eyes and telling her your sexual fantasies, so now’s the time to be as playful as you want to be. Experiment with whispering and moans, and make sure you give flirty details before jumping into phone sex. After all, things won’t be too hot for either one of you if you go from a “my job sucks” conversation to touching yourselves.
Listen
Communication during physical sex is uber important. Guess what, guys, it’s even more important during phone sex. That’s because both people are literally talking to the other about what they want to have happen in that moment, so listen to what your girl is saying. This means going with the flow and saying dirty stuff that you otherwise wouldn’t, all so she can live out her fantasy. Take some of her clues and be creative, giving her hot details for her imagination to run wild with.
Bring up previous sexual experiences
Struggling with the right things to say during phone sex? Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you can’t make things hot as hell, you just need to go back into the memory bank. That’s right, rather than stir up some new situation that you and your partner have never done, go ahead and relive a sexual experience you had together that you know will get her wet. Have a wild romp sesh at a friend’s wedding in the back of a taxi? Reenact what it was like and add a few other details for you two to get off.
Phone sex is your safe place
You may have never have had sex in a public place before, but, hey, when having phone sex, now’s not the time to hold back from your fantasies. That means you should be able to voice nearly anything you want to, hoping to live out a fantasy that may not ever actually happen. Look, we can’t all have sex on the beach with the thrill of other people (potentially) watching, but, when having hot phone sex, we certainly can.