A common problem amongst new couples (as well as old one) is that sometimes we don’t know what sexual things our partners are ok with. You may have vanilla tastes or you may prefer kinkier sex, the issue is how to bring up with your partner what you’re both comfortable with, without getting embarrassed. My best friend Tony actually showed me the website mojoupgrade.com years ago, and it’s the most ingenious invention ever – as well as being completely free! So find out if your partner is a Saint or a Slut!
I find myself very open and curious towards BSDM at the moment. I would love to explore that more. A problem I find myself with however, is that I’m unsure if my partner would be interested in doing such things as well, or if he/she wants to things that are beyond what I’m comfortable with. The most obvious thing to do would be simply to talk it out with your partner to find out what each of your are ok with doing and what you’d both like to do. It’s not so simple however, when you take into consideration how it may be embarrassing if you want to do something that your partner may find too much, or if knowing your partner wants to do something you don’t want to do and you feel like you’ve disappointed them. I’ve known people who agreed to do kinkier things only because their partner really wanted to, and have regretted it afterwards.
MojoUpgrade is the solution. It’s a really simple concept that gives you great results, without the embarrassing talk in-between and no pressure from either party to agree to anything.
The way it works is:
- There’s a survey of sexual acts
- You and your partner take the survey, either from one computer or from separate computers.
- For each statement, you can pick, “No”, “We already do that”, “If my partner is interested”, or “Yes”
- Once you and your partner have completed the survey the results will be shown
- However, any statement where either party has chosen “No” will not show up
This last point, I find, is what makes the website so good. Unless you meticulously wrote down all the questions (and there’s a lot) as well as all your answers to them, you just won’t know which items your partner doesn’t want to do. By not having those statements show up at all, you can save the embarrassment and you don’t have to feel guilty about it. Instead, you can focus on things you have mutually shown interest in exploring!
Like I mentioned, the Mojoupgrade survey is very detailed and if you click the “advance” option at the start, shows a wide range from anything as simple as longer foreplay to something such as triple-penetration. Plus, even if the sexual act you want to try isn’t on, it’s certainly a good starting point to understanding your partner’s limits, and for your partner to understand your limits. It’s fun and can be brought up casually as something to do for a laugh.
Disclaimer: I would advise that if you decide to use this website to spice up your sex life, then make sure you trust your partner to not take advantage of it. For instance, if he or she answers “Yes” to everything, they would obviously know everything that you are interested in. It wouldn’t be a productive result though. For best results, you should explain to your partner exactly how the Mojoupgrade works, and make sure they’re happy to take it as well!