“My girlfriend is bisexual; I’m worried I’m not enough” is a very common question asked by guys who enter a relationship with a bisexual girl. In fact, I would say nearly every guy who’s been in that situation has felt that exact sense of fear. There’s nothing to worry about though and I’ll explain why.
Bisexuals have a hard time in the community. It sounds weird, but whilst being full on homosexual is more accepted now, a lot of people just don’t believe it’s a real thing. If a guy comes out as bisexual people say things like “Well you’re clearly just gay but in denial about it.” and if you’re a girl that comes out as bisexual then you get “It’s just a phase, you’ll get over it.”
On the other end of the spectrum, some people think dating a bisexual girl is the dream deal, because you’ll end up in porn-fantasy threesomes every other week. The reason you need to know both these points is because it’s important to understand more about your girlfriend and her sexuality. You need to understand a lot of myths about bisexual girls are just that, myths.
Firstly, if she comes out as bisexual, then you should believe her. Don’t hope that it’s just a phase, or that she might only feel that way if she’s drunk. Accepting that she can be sexually attracted to women is ok. Most importantly in your relationship is that you show her you support her, since she can have insecurities about coming out to you.
The fear that she might leave you for another women can be scary, but you should think of bisexuality no differently to heterosexuality. If you’re straight, you probably find other girls attractive. You might have celebrity crushes. That doesn’t mean you’re going to leave your girlfriend for any random attractive girl that walks past.
If your girlfriend were completely straight, you would trust that she loves you and wants to be with you enough that she won’t leave you for another man. Simply put, just trust in yourself, your girlfriend and also your relationship, her bisexuality doesn’t change this part of the relationship at all.
The other area you’re worried about is being able to satisfy her sexually. If she’s bisexual, that means she must like doing lesbian stuff right? You’re not a lesbian though. You don’t have a vagina or boobs so how are you going to satisfy that craving? The answer is, don’t worry about it. There are things that only you, as a man, can sexually satisfy her with.
But even that isn’t the real message. It doesn’t matter if you were a man, or a woman, or both. She might be sexually attracted to women, but that doesn’t mean she needs a woman. She has decided to be with you, and that means she is happy with what you can offer her.
Different people do sex differently, and therefore offer different types of sex. Perhaps another man has a different style of oral? Perhaps another woman uses her fingers in an interesting way. At the end of the day, your girlfriend likes you and likes your style.
If you’re still worried you’re not satisfying her properly, you can ask her if there’s anything she would like to try. Ask her during foreplay if she enjoys what you’re doing, or ask her to talk to dirty to you and tell you what she wants you to do.
Communication is key, and so is giving her support and trust. Dating a bisexual woman really isn’t any different to dating a heterosexual woman. Have more confidence in yourself, and more faith in your relationship.