Every guy loves to receive a blowjob. But let’s be honest, not every girl knows how to give great head. Harriet Sugarcookie met up with Paola Saulino, famous for her pompatour where she travelled Italy giving blowjobs to men that voted “no” in an Italian referendum. If anyone knows how to give the perfect blowjob, it’s her.

Paola Saulino says that the perfect blowjob isn’t a big secret or about learning mad sex skills. The perfect blowjob happens when you’re in love. Ultimately, Paola says that a blowjob is about getting pleasure from making someone else happy.

And that feeling is at peak when you are in love. That being said, Paola still has some rules that can help you or your girlfriend give way better head.

Talk dirty to me

The best blowjobs start with some seduction. Paola says talking is one of the best ways to get your man ready for a blowjob. Tease him by telling him what you’d like to do to him, tell him how much you need to taste him and you will have him super horny immediately.

Get into position

Paola says the best position is for the man to lie down on his back with the girl facing him. Everyone is comfortable and the guy will be completely relaxed. All he has to do is lie back and enjoy the blowjob.

Starting slowly

Don’t start too fast is Paola’s advice. Go slowly and tease him first. Paola prefers to start a blowjob by gently licking the sensitive head of the penis or by stroking the length of the shaft with just one finger. She gives a useful hint to girls that you will give the best blowjob if you treat a d**k as you would your vagina. Start slowly!

Mouth techniques

Paola says that for the best head, you should never stop using your tongue. Use it to lick the length of his shaft, and keep using it on the head of the penis even when it’s in your mouth. You want to overload your guy with different sensations and the tongue is one of the best ways to do that.

She goes onto say that you should make sure you get the penis very wet. You want to use enough saliva so that your hands and mouth glide along his penis easily. But not so much that it it becomes too porno. Too much saliva is not sexy, even if extreme porn tells us it is.

When sucking, try not to suck too hard at first. Some men like lots of suction, others don’t. Start by sucking gently and suck harder and harder until you instinctively find the level he likes.

Paola also says you should try to deep-throat your man. Don’t worry if you cannot fit it all in. It’s the attempt that’s important. It’s a different sensation and it feels extra naughty. But don’t overuse this technique. Only do it 2-3 times during a blowjob. The man can’t actually feel much during deep-throat as the most nerves are in the head of the penis.

Hands on

Most girls stroke up and down the penis with their hands during a blowjob but Paola recommends making a twisting motion at the same time. It provides more sensation and stimulation for the guy giving him a much better feeling.

And don’t forget that you have two hands. Use them both. For the very best blowjobs Paola likes to explore the guys bum. You can simply squeeze a cheek or touch more sensitive parts of his bottom, if he’s OK with that.

Look at me

Try to maintain lots of eye contact as you give your blowjob. It reinforces the connection you have and looks so good from his perspective. But Paola says sometimes a guy will be enjoying a blowjob so much that he may just put his head back, close his eyes and enjoy the ride.

Don’t forget the balls!

Paula Saulino loves balls. She talks about them a lot. Not all girls have a natural fascination with balls but if you want to give the perfect blowjob then you should. They’re incredibly sensitive. You can touch them gently with your hands, lick them or even suck them –  again, do that very gently – just don’t forget about them.

The happiest of endings

As a blowjob nears it’s climax, Paola says that communication becomes vital again if you want to give the perfect blowjob. Play with his mind. Tell him that you want to swallow him. According to Paola, nothing helps get a guy over the finishing line fast than that.

Paola says the best blowjobs always end with swallowing. It’s simply what the man wants.