Oral Sex is one thing that seems to sit towards the top of the list when it comes to sexual activity — and with good reason. After all, while penetrating sex is great, oral sex can get a partner off just as much, if not more! 

The problem with oral sex is this: not everyone knows what the hell they’re doing down there. Sure, it doesn’t seem like it’s all that complicated, but, as anyone who has ever gotten it can attest to, it’s a bit trickier than just licking and sucking and using your tongue. Oral sex really does take a special kind of someone to do it right.

Knowing that, we turned to Reddit to get some cold hard facts about how to do oral sex just right, with an award-winning sex and relationship expert, named Dr. Jess, hosting a AMA to spill all the details. Naturally, we took some killer notes and paid close attention, because, c’mon, this is fascinating and educational stuff! Here’s what Dr. Jess had to say.

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Use Your Nose. Yep, No Joke

“Apply a drop of lube and run your nose down the centre of her vulva – roll it around in large circle around the edges or slide it right inside as you nod your head up and down and back and forth. Breathe deeply and let your natural sounds flow freely to let her know just how much you love it.”

Stroke Her Clitoris

“Her inner clitoris is just as important as the pearl-like head that peers over the top of her vulva — the legs and bulbs can be stimulated through her labia with the right amount of pressure. Use the tip of your tongue to tease between her lips during the early stages of foreplay and use your lips and cheeks (covered in lube) to increase the pressure.”

“As she gets closer to orgasm, stroke your tongue from the head of her clitoris right down to the fourchette (where the lips meet at the bottom) while pressing your thumbs firmly into the fleshy parts of her outer lips so that she has a grounded surface against which to grind.”

Use The Palm Of Your Hand

“Forget fingering (for now) and use your entire hand to take her pleasure to new heights. Place a flat hand against her vulva (as though you’re cupping it) and apply pressure as you slide up and down. You’ll need lots of lube for this one!”

Create A Suction Cup

“Open your mouth as wide as you can and press it against her vulva. Suck away as your roll your tongue around the edges of your lips to create your own suction cup.”

Go Slow… Very, Very Slow

“When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel.”

Don’t Stick To Just One Position

“Most couples engage in oral with the receiving partner on their back. This not only limits their sexual repertoire, but the repetition can render even the hottest techniques boring. Change things up with these suggestions.”

  • Flip her onto her stomach
  • Pull her legs off the side of the bed
  • Place her ankles in her hands while she lies on her back
  • Lie on your sides facing one another
  • Have her bend one leg up onto the couch while standing
  • Ask her to get down all fours
  • Lift her onto the kitchen counter and pull up a chair
  • Let her sit on your face and wrap her legs right around you

And, just like that, these oral sex tips will, presumably, make you a pro in the bedroom. You can head on over to Reddit to see the full thread and see what else Dr. Jess has to say. Trust us, your girl will thank you.

(H/T Reddit)