It’s not uncommon for couples who have broken up to get back together again. Sometimes all you needed was a break. But sometimes we pick bad reasons to get back with your ex. Here are five bad reasons to get back with your ex you should avoid.
Loneliness
I believe that this is the most common bad reason to get back with your ex. After a break up, its normal to feel lonely. It’s normal to feel sad, sometimes even depressed. Those feelings can become overwhelming and you start thinking “at least when I was with them, I wasn’t lonely.” Loneliness after a break up isn’t long term. It’s certainly not a good enough reason to get back together. You don’t need to settle. As they say, good things come to those who wait.
Need the sex
I touched up on this point in my previous blog. It’s similar to the loneliness problem. You get used to having sex easily available, and suddenly it’s really hard to get it. Your body craves it, and you head is reminding you how great it was before. The sex might have been great, but that doesn’t mean the relationship was. You can’t base a relationship on sex alone.
You haven’t met anyone else
The dating game isn’t easy. Especially after a breakup. You’re going through an emotional time, and it can be hard to get back into the swing of things. You can start feeling desperate a month after a breakup if you’ve had no luck meeting anyone else, and you start thinking maybe there isn’t anyone else out there for you. It’s not true. Yes, it can take a while to find someone. Maybe the first person you date afterwards isn’t right, or the person after that. But just because you haven’t met the right person yet, doesn’t mean your ex was the right person for you.
Guilty feelings
This is problem for those who did the breaking up part. Your partner might have been bitterly against it, and really want you back. You’re a good person, so you don’t want to upset them. You don’t want to disappoint them. When they tell you how it’s all their fault, how they can change, you think maybe you should give them another chance. In fact, this is a red flag to not get back together. Relationships take two people, and when they break down, it’s the fault of both parties. It might be nice to think you did nothing wrong, but for a relationship to work, you both have to take responsibility and work through it together. Them saying it wasn’t your fault means you can’t do those things. It’s a bad mentality to go back into with.
It’s the easy thing to do
Let’s admit it. A lot of us are lazy. We want to take the easy option. Getting back together means we don’t have to be lonely. We don’t have to put effort into finding someone new. Things go back to the status quo. It might seem like the easier option at first, but if you think about it, will it be easier? Will things be better? Or will the problems that made you break up in the first place still be there? You should never get back with an ex because it’s the easier thing to do. You should only get back together with an ex if it’s what you really want to do.